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    It must be summer

    posted Saturday, 21 June 2008

    The days have been a bit of a trudge since I've returned home from my extended stay in New Orleans. I miss Dangerblond and Georgina and our routine, and just being there. Plus, back in the A-T-L, all my real world problems (problems? who has problems?), which didn't disappear despite my "working vacation" from them, have landed squarely back in my lap (imagine that!).

    Middle Son is "home", staying with The Oldest in his apartment. He is looking for temporary work and (without much enthusiasm) studying to take the LSAT, which he's postponed (again) until October. He's been charged with 1) administratively supporting his father's entrepreneurial efforts (with one more to get through college, if y'all can figure out another way, I'd love to hear about it...) and 2) helping the aforementioned one more get through two semesters at a local community college, after which he (a/k/a The Youngest) will enter (God willing and the creek don't rise) a mid-sized regional university, not surprisingly located in, yes, a hurricane zone. He needs fifteen hours and decent grades and he can start in January if we can patch it all together. This would make me three for three, sending all three sons off to college in three different cities, each prone to hurricanes. But we're not there yet, taking one step at a time, so I'm holding my breath and crossing my fingers and formulating Plan B, just in case. He's got two classes this summer term. Lots of ifs.

    Sis Bel is hangin' in there. She's started back on the "experimental" chemo she had one course of earlier this year. It was a desperate move when they started it and she's been off of it for a while, but it seemed to help her. She feels better now than she did last winter, even being on her third feeding tube. She doesn't have much energy and is unimaginably thin, but she's trying to do things that make her happy. Fortunately for us, this includes baking. One morning this week, I went to work with a fresh out of the oven blueberry turnover, made from scratch, to have with my coffee. Also, her old HS buds are flying her out to Austin for a 4th of July party. Our folks lived there briefly while I was in college, and she finished high school there, and stayed through her 20s. I worry that the trip will be too much for her, but I know she will love it, so it's well worth any risk. They've ordered special assistance, and she's flying to Austin a couple of days early so she can rest between the travel and the party. Her hostess, a best friend from high school, has spent the last four years caring in her home for her mother who passed a few months ago, so she knows exactly what she's taking on. It was all her idea. I'm thankful for that and really happy for Bel.

    After first thinking I'd pass on the opportunity, I have been convinced to field a team in the summer college age baseball league at our home park. It's a very competitive league and we have our first game Sunday, June 22. The Youngest & his friend G promised to do the "organizing" (things like collecting checks and making sure the other players know when and where to show up), but they've gotten off to a slow start. I can't complain. I forgot to be talking to the one player I should have contacted. After doing exceptionally well my last five seasons as a GM in the regular 18U league, we got our butts kicked last summer. This time, we've tried to put together a roster with enough pitching to not get so killed this summer. I'll keep y'all posted on that.

    I've also been binging on television when I'm not working, having discovered that I can watch TV, tweet on Twitter and feel sorry for myself all at the same time. I watched the whole 3rd season of Weeds On Demand. It took a couple of weekends. We're one episode into the 4th season, and I'm reduced to watching at a rate of one episode per week. Anyway, Season 3 of Weeds introduced a character with Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (GERD). He burped all the time, not big belches but little burps, often. As a GERD sufferer, it hurt my feelings and made me laugh at the same time (alright, please don't take this to infer in any way that I burp one bit more than the next blogger... and it didn't really hurt my feelings).

    Then, again On Demand, I watched two seasons of Dexter. It's very dark, but compelling and addictive. In between Weeds and Dexter, I watched HBO's elegant set pieces, John Adams and Recount, most powerful, especially when taken together. I can't help but think that HBO knew exactly what they wanted to say when they released those two pieces in the lead up to a presidential election. Then, they cast Tom Wilkinson as both Ben Franklin and republican strategist James Baker. They're going to air John Adams from start to finish on July 4th, for those of us who might wish to spend the holiday deeply immersed in a history lesson. Cap it off with Recount and it'll put everything in quick, and urgent, perspective.

    I needed to spend Saturday night cleaning out the other side of my clothes closet, which is a mess. I got half of it done last weekend. Instead, just to keep up the good cheer, I decided to try again to watch We Are Marshall. I've posted about this before. I was a senior in high school, about to turn 17, living in Huntington, WV on November 14th, 1970 when that happened (It was Atlanta, then Hungtington, then Austin, then back to Atlanta, got it?). I've tried to watch it from the beginning before and had to change the channel. Then I skipped the early part and watched it from when they decide to try to field a team again, and found it comforting. Finally, this time, I was able to watch the whole thing. It made me cry, but in a good way. Moving away and going off to college, I kind of missed the healing part. One moment in the film said it all, when a funeral procession had to stop, to let another funeral procession pass. That's what it was like. That's when I figured out, it can happen to you. It was my hysterical paranoia that took it all the way to and it probably will.

    There's been lots of talk this week about the tragic passing of Tim Russert. His memorial service Wednesday ended to the spirit-stirring strains of Hawai'ian Israel Kamakawiwo'ole's magical medly of "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" and "What a Wonderful World". On his Wednesday night show, MSNBC's Keith Olbermann commented that as the mourners exited, they were greeted to an actual rainbow (or two) arched across the Washington sky. Then he said they were "Stopped in our tracks." Great minds (click the link or just Google, "stopped in my tracks" - read, or just scroll down).

    I had a dream last week about the old blind dog. I was driving off and looked into the rear view mirror to see her running after me, a flash of white, as happened so many times in her youth and prime. I pulled over and called her to me, happy to have her company, and she jumped up into the open car door for the ride. Of course, being old and blind that sort of thing doesn't happen anymore. She mostly just lays around and likes to take frequent, short walks. I woke up sad. She's been the very best dog and means the world to me. She's somewhere around 13, found roaming the neighborhood the day after my father died. Saturday, June 21 he would have been 100. I still miss him. Happy Birthday, Daddy.

    Finally, and I didn't mean to bury this at the bottom of such a long post (goodness, I do prattle on!), but for both of y'all who are still reading this, I have this juicy gem:

    Mark your calendars for the weekend of August 22-24 and start planning your trip to New Orleans for Rising Tide III, the NOLA Bloggers' annual conference.

    More than just interesting speakers and topical panel discussions, the weekend includes a Friday night party and a Sunday public service component, great opportunities to break bread and share cheer with the NOLA Bloggers and those who come to learn about New Orleans, as well as to put hands on and do something.

    Best. Time. Ever.

    Blogerati! Lively Banter Guaranteed!

    I need to go to the beach. Okay, I'm done. Finished whining. Finished shouting (for now - but mark your calendars). Peace, out, y'all.

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    1. Charlotte left...
    Sunday, 22 June 2008 12:11 pm :: http://www.charleyana.wordpress.com

    Well that was a newsy post and very interesting! Your thoughts about old blind dog brings back memories of my old blind poodle. She died at 17! Actually, I had to put her down (due to severe pain, not blindness1) , something I've only done the one time.

    I hope to see ya the next time you're in town. :)


    2. JohnSherck left...
    Sunday, 22 June 2008 12:12 pm :: http://wheresmyplan.blog-city.com

    Hey sophmom, good luck today with your team.

    It sounds like you're dealing with that pesky real world and its problems better than many--best to you, friend.


    3. Paula Reed left...
    Sunday, 22 June 2008 10:07 pm :: http://paulareed.blog-city.com

    I'm rooting for you and your family. You have a lot going on. And I guess we never stop missing our Dads, do we?


    4. sophmom left...
    Sunday, 22 June 2008 11:06 pm

    Charlotte, I hope I have at least that many more years with my sweet Daisy. She's been a wonderful companion. The blindness doesn't really seem to bother her so much, although (obviously) I miss her running free. It's so hard to make end of life decisions. I'm sure you made the right one.

    Thanks for the wishes, John. We lost, but it was so much fun being out there, and the vibe in the dugout was great. I was short players, missing virtually all of my primary pitchers, so the fact that I didn't get mercy-ruled (by this very strong team) is a good sign for the rest of this (short) season. You have much going on, darlin'. Y'all have my best wishes for a smooth (rest of the) move and a joyful life together.

    Thanks, Paula, I do have a lot going on but I've decided that's just the nature of life. I guess it all means that I have a life full of relationships, a large extended circle, for which I'm very grateful.

    Y'all are the best. I'm so pleased that 3 of you made it all the way through the looooong post! Thanks!!!


    5. Nicki left...
    Tuesday, 24 June 2008 12:45 am

    Hey soph.... a big cyber hug to a real-life friend. Give Daisy a rub on the ears for me.


    6. The Fool left...
    Tuesday, 24 June 2008 4:59 pm :: http://aspitintheocean.blogspot.com/

    It sounds like you are busy on many fronts. I have 8 years between my two sons...so I'll get a bit of a breather before doing round 2 of the ivory-tower-shuffle...I can only imagine trying to get 3 through college. That's something to be proud of. Best to Sis Bel & a blessing to warms friends who care. May her trip to Austin meet all hopes. Glad to hear you won't be jonesin' for the dugout this season, too...I know your heart is in the game...so here's to a winning season. I look forward to the reports. I'll take the nod on the TV recommendations...and when I get the chance to set for a spell I'll try to tune into one. Busy-busy at the moment. The first road tour to secure a new place begins tomorrow. Right now, I'm without a four-legged faithful one...Son ! inherited the Heeler in the latest transition, so give your friend a scratch behind the ears for me. Sure wish I had one to take with me to walk the beaches with. And I see that ol' Bill C. is vocallizing his sup[port for Obama now...think there's any chance of an Obama-Hillary ticket? It would make sense. Thanks for the updates, Soph. Best to you and yours. Peace out.


    7. John-Ward Leighton left...
    Tuesday, 24 June 2008 5:24 pm :: http://jayward33.blog-city.com/

    Glad to have you back, so "PLAT BALL!" JWL


    8. catty left...
    Wednesday, 25 June 2008 5:31 pm :: http://savetheamericanfamily.blog-city.c

    Well crud, Sophmom! Here I sit in the land of Cleve visiting with the grandkiddies and spending my days stripping the wallpaper from my brother's kitchen and you've just snapped me out of my little fantasy by telling me all my problems are still going to be there when I get home. Fudge, that means I'm unemployed even here.

    Glad to hear you are coaching a team this year. It sounds like you have so much fun doing it and we have so much fun reading your stories about the games. Win, win for everyone.

    Snuggle your fuzzy friend for me. I miss the kitties. Grandma has a little dog that only snuggles with her and when I finish that little dish of ice cream the little dog isn't allowed to lick the bowl clean. So I sit looking at the meltings and missing the kitties.

    I hope Sis Belle has a grand adventure. Now back to mine.


    9. liprap left...
    Wednesday, 25 June 2008 11:54 pm :: http://liprapslament-theline.blogspot.co

    We're missing you, too, madame. Too bad we can't all enjoy a summer of discontent in closer proximity ;-)

    Be well.


    10. sophmom left...
    Thursday, 26 June 2008 12:45 pm

    Yikes, y'all! I've taken waaaay too long to answer your sweet comments!

    Nicki, you're an angel for stopping by. When are y'all coming to town next? I've been keeping an eye on things "over there" (you know where), but not sayin' too much.

    Thanks, Fool. I know you're on the road this week, getting settled. Gentle readers, if y'all haven't clicked The Fool link in my "Blogs I Visit" section (left gutter) recently, you should do so. He's moving to what looks like the Most. Beautiful. Place. Ever. (Even if it is in West By God Alaska). As for being back on the baseball field, it's really hard to describe how much I'm enjoying it. I was phoning it in last summer, totally burned out. Nothing like a year off to renew the love of the game. I really like my team too. Excellent dugout vibe. Won last night on a walk-off single that drove in a largely manufactured run (snuck that runner around to 3B, we did). I bet they have doggies looking to be adopted where you're headed. Or maybe you can get your son to bring yours down at least for a visit and a walk on the beach! I'm not predicting the Veep (yet). Edwards would please me no end, although it's hard to argue that HC hasn't earned it. We might be better served with JE as AG (nice ring to it too). I want BO to do whatever makes winning most likely (big surprise there, hunh?). I hope your move is smooth as glass, darlin'.

    JWL, play ball, we are, and IT'S GLORIOUS!

    Catty, HUSH!! Shhhhh! You're not supposed to know that until you get back from the Land of Cleve. You're not so much unemployed as you are, well, independent. I'm very sure, knowing you that you're bringing great industry to your, er, independence! I fully expect it to become a wise career move. Enjoy! Can't you at least sneak the icecream bowl to Grandma's little dog? Poor baby. Deprived.

    Leigh, I strongly suspect that I (at least) would be feeling much less discontent if I could be in closer proximity to all y'all. I guess the baseball is a nice consolation. Every time we get another Code Red Smog Alert I think to myself, "Harumph! They might be a little hotter and a little more humid some days (in New Orleans) but I be they don't have twenty Smog Alert days every summer!" Yes, I should come there to get away from the Bad Air.

    Thanks, y'all for stopping by and saying hi. Thanks especially for all the sweet thoughts for Bel. She leaves for Austin on Sunday morning and is getting really excited. She had her last chemo before her two week break yesterday and feels way puny today. I let her know about all my "internet friends'" wishes and prayers for her and she is deeply touched.

    You know, you're the best! I'll try to get some b-ball pics to post with my next update! I'm in such a jolly mood. One win and you'd think I got lucky last night (yeah, right - you'd think I even remember what that means!)

    I gotta go 'fore I say something that gets me in trouble. Peace, y'all! Thanks again!


    11. The Capt. left...
    Thursday, 3 July 2008 10:37 am

    There's a lot of symbolism in that dream. I think it was a positive dream. What it said about you as a person (to the outsider), but also as a reminder to you of what's truly important to you in life - what makes you happy. You miss and love your father, but you also miss those things that made him who he was. It seems you want more of that in your life.

    No matter what's going on in your life, REMEMBER TO ALWAYS TREAT YOURSELF WELL. WOMEN OFTEN PUT EVERYONE ELSE'S HAPPINESS BEFORE THEIRS - YOU DESERVE TO TREAT YOURSELF WELL!


    12. sophmom left...
    Saturday, 5 July 2008 1:13 pm

    Thank you, dear Capt. You're closer in your analysis than you could possibly imagine. Bullseye.


    13. Lisa B. left...
    Wednesday, 9 July 2008 11:58 am :: http://www.lisabindacity.com

    Dang girl, you stay busy! I'm extremely impressed - as always - with you :-)