Belinda Allison 11/21/55 - 11/11/08
My sister, the youngest of Mama and Daddy's four girls, with whom I've shared a home for the last four years, gently passed from this life this afternoon just before 2:00. I was on one side, holding her hand and stroking her hair, while Michael (a/k/a Middle Son) was on the other, softly singing the Counting Crows' "A Long December". She was a quiet soul but tough as nails, and her travel in this world was not always easy. The nobility with which she braved the ravages of cancer was an inspiration. She was loved, and she will be missed. 'Night, Bel. Counting Crows - A Long December
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Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry.
I'm so sad for you. That's a beautiful picture of her. May she rest in
peace. From Kim.
I'm glad you were able to be there for her til the end. If we've got to
go--and rumor has it we do--going quietly surrounded by loved ones and a
beautiful song sounds like the way to do it.
Sending you and your family peace, prayers and meditation, Sophmom. Please
take care of yourself, and when you're able to, give yourself time to get
plenty of rest. Your innertubez denizens will all still be here when you
get back
Thinking of you tonight, Sophmom.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in our thoughts. If
there is any comfort we can offer, please, don't be afraid to reach out for
it.
S, I'm so sorry. I'll light a candle for her, and for you.
I'm SO SORRY for your loss. What a lovely tribute to your beloved sister.
And what a pretty woman.
I am so, so sorry. Kaddish will be said for her by me.
May you find peace. Neal
Oh, my goodness gracious, y'all. I posted this and crashed. My amazing son,
Michael (they're all amazing but he raised the bar yesterday) spent the
night and took over the computer from that point on. I'm just now checking
back in. I'm a lucky one to have so many sweet people thinking of me. It
will be later before I can answer each of you, but, Kim, it's okay to
sign me out blog-city on your computer. Adrastos, I take no
responsibility for anything she may have said as me since August! Yikes!
So very sad to hear of your loss. Sending you and your family lots of love
and light.
Y'all are so wonderful. I've worked today, and am doing okay, but lose it
from time to time, fearful that I never told her how brave I thought she
was. I'm so sad, and prone to beating myself up. I know I could have taken
better care of her at the very end. It's so easy to forget what needs
doing. I came so close to doing this right. Even knowing there are no
do-overs and focusing on trying to avoid regret, I don't think I
necessarily succeeded. *sigh*
We'll never forget the time she grilled hot dogs in the pouring rain on my
41st birthday for a crowd of 20 or so. We will never forget Bel. She is
always in our hearts.
I'm sorry for your loss, Sophmom.
Hugs, Soph. May your family find peace at this difficult time.
I'm blown away by this amazing support. It's been a blur. I went back to
work Wednesday, having missed so much during Bel's last weeks and just
feeling the need for some routine. In addition, Mama has been in a rapid
decline & when I'm not at work, I've been with her. I will never get each
one of you personally thanked, but please know how much it means to me. I'd
like to thank Liprap for the sweet voicemail and Kim for the text message.
I'll call you both this weekend. KJ, I hope you feel better soon and
perhaps can join us on Saturday evening when we gather in Bel's honor. I'll
email the details.
I have great empathy with you having similarly lost a sister. Its hard and
i think of my sister daily and in my deep sorrow talk to her over the
years. My sister inspired me to try to be a better person and I'm sure your
sister will inspire you. i have to stop here cause I'm in tears.
JWL
I'm so sorry about your loss. My condolences to your family.
It's never easy. The love and memories you shared will always warm you and
keep your sister near. So many die alone and so many families are not
close, you gave your sister a peace that no one else could. I'm so sorry
for your loss. Best wishes for you and your lovely family.
Sophmom, I'm so very sorry to see this. Having endured vigils like this is
always good and bad. Bel is no longer in pain.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know being with her family in a cocoon of
love and support was a great comfort to Bel these last years. (((hugs))))
I'm so sorry to hear this but as others have said the loving hand of family
was with her to the end and while it seemed a great burden to you, it was
because of the great burden you lifted from her as she traveled home. Peace
to you all.
I am so sorry for the loss and feel very touched by the beautiful passing
you gave her. What a joy, in the end, to move on with dignity and beauty.
My condolences to you and your family.
Sweet people, I haven't fallen off the earth, or forgotten about you. I
apologize for not having answered each of you personally, as is my
preference, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your sweet
words. I have been bedsitting Mama in the final stages of hospice, sleeping
on a roll away bed in a skilled nursing room of her assisted living
community while my sister, Kathy & her husband do the heavy lifting of
going through all the things in her apartment upstairs. It's hard to
believe that Mama and Bel are going to pass so close together. It's
midnight, Friday morning, that would have been Bel's 53rd birthday. Mama's
time is short.
Just passing through to leave another hug.
You are surrounded by love & friends. May God & his Love remain with you..